Friday, April 5, 2013

Weekly Wrap Up 4.5.13

Still looking for a job. Its getting really stressful. I'm doing all I can to save money, or reduce spending.
I pay for groceries with pop can returns or change (at the self checkout during slow times) &I don't turn on the heat (extra socks and blankets). I don't turn on the lights during the day (I open the blinds; it does strain my eyes a little at times) and I don't flush the toilet every time I go (yeah I know it's gross) How about I tell you I don't shower every day? Although that is more because I don't leave the house everyday and am lazy. 

I did manage to pick up some very sporadic babysitting. It's only a few times a month though so I am still going to need something more. Especially since we just paid the mortgage, car insurance and AT&T bill. Goodbye $1,700. Eeek! 

Speaking of AT&T, last week I called to try and get our Internet bill lowered. I spent TWO hours on the phone before hanging up. So after that I called and signed up with charter. When I called to cancel AT&T I spent six minutes on the phone. SIX! From the time I dialed to the time I hung up. I guess they didn't want my money.

And I'm pretty sure that I reached my company call quota for the year because yesterday when I got home from babysitting, in the mail was an explanation of benefits from the insurance company for the blood work I had done a few weeks ago. Not usually a big deal, but this one listed a former employer of Rob's. One that he hasn't worked for in over a year. So I call the number listed on it, they can't find it because we have Blue Care (which is a division of Blue Cross, which we used to have, but not the same), so they transfer me. Neither can find the claim in the system. So then I call the office that ordered the blood work, and they tell me they have the right information. Which they should, because why would they even have the old information? So then I call the billing department, who also is confused and see's nothing
for the date listed, and that I should just wait for a bill and if it comes to call them and they can resubmit it. So while everyone was nice and friendly, no one really could figure it out. So I guess I just to wait to see if I'm going to get yet another bill and spend more money.

I was telling Rob how I am still really stressed about money, and he keeps telling me it will be fine, and that it's good for us to figure out how little we can really live on. And we can pay our bills at the moment, but nothing is going into savings, and  before I stopped working my bank account was at the highest it has ever been, so that keeps dropping and that makes me feel sad.




My sweet niece on Easter


Easter was fun. It's a hodgepodge at my parents with family from both sides. Then of course is the Easter egg hunt. Now that there are kids again my parents do one again

When I was a kid my parents always had a huge Easter egg hunt. All of my cousins,
friends and kids of my parents friends would come. There was always at least 25-30 kids. We would always try to peek out the window to see where they were being hidden and then they would just throw candy all over the yard. My parents have a big (almost 4 acres) yard. Some of that wasn't used, and they do have a  garden, but probably close to 2 acres were covered in eggs and candy. They also have pine trees lining 2 sides of the property. I remember finding eggs into the summer. I wouldn't eat the candy, but the ones that had money were always fun to find.

Baby also got it's first gift yesterday. Rob's grandparents brought this over. It laughs like a baby when you touch it's toes. It's cute, and I love that they were so thoughtful.
   






Tuesday, April 2, 2013

14 weeks.


I haven't really elaborated much on what it took to get to this point, but in this post I mention some of the things that helped us get here. 

How far along:  14 weeks

Baby Size:  A lemon

Weight:  124.2 (only up 1.4lbs since finding out.  Tell me it's normal)

Symptoms:   

  • Major nausea this week. 
  • I've always had really wild vivid dreams, but they happen multiple times a night now (like the dream about a fire hydrant in the middle of someones kitchen table because that was where it had to be placed per regulations.  Not sure what would happen if a firefighter needed to get into the house to access it and no one was home. Ha.)

Maternity Clothes:  No, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to finally need a new bra.  I'm okay with my chest not growing.  It's already ample enough.

Sleep:  Crummy again.  I'm thinking I'm going to have to invest in a body pillow soon. I was up Sunday night every 2 hours.

Cravings/Food Aversions:  I wouldn't really call this a craving because I didn't know I wanted them until I saw them, but we were at Sam's club over the weekend and I walked past the pickles and was like ooh gotta buy them.  Then I sent text my friend and told her because its such a stereotypical pregnant thing and she would think it's funny. 

Still not liking meat.  We were at Buffalo Wild Wings and I ate fries and chips and salsa.  I love the boneless wings, but couldn't eat them or really look at them.  I did actually eat a brat on Saturday (doused in mustard though).

Belly Button: In


Rings on or off: on

Gender:  I think I lean more toward a girl, but only because more people think its a girl and because I have more girl clothes and my favorite cloth diaper is a girls print.  I'm easily swayed though so convince me it's a boy and I might believe you. 


I had 2 baby related dreams.  The first one I had the baby and then we went home that night without the baby (maybe this was standard hospital procedure in my dream?), but we didn't know if it was a boy or girl. We never asked  I couldn't call and find out because 1) Bad parents that we don't even know and 2) I didn't want to find out over the phone.  So I woke up not knowing.

The second baby related dream involved me being in a Florida hospital because my sister was there also.  We were having dinner with my parents at the hospital and I was 36 weeks 6 days.  I thought I was going into labor, but ended up not having the baby.  Then when I really did have the baby there were so many people in the room that I had to leave my room to go use a public hallway bathroom.  When I came back my baby was born and was chilling out on a table.  It was a boy.

Name:  No final decisions, but my niece who is 7 thinks it's going to be a girl and we should name her Brooklyn.   I don't think that's going to make the cut.  It's not a bad name, but I don't think it's our style


Milestones:  Making it another week. 


Looking forward to:
 Feeling the baby, looking pregnant and not looking like I am overeating.

What I miss:  Not much this week. 


Labor signs: Nope, and not for a long time either. 

Appointments:  
16 week in 2 weeks, and the a/s in 4 weeks.  I really excited about Rob going (because I told him the is NO WAY he is missing it) and getting to see the baby and see how it has grown.  He was at the first ultrasound, but missed the next 2.  I know he looked at the pictures and was excited, but I want to share the moment with him, while it is still in the moment.  

14 weeks. 

Best moment this week: Getting to see extended family at Easter.  They already knew about the pregnancy, but they were all really excited and happy for us and that was fun.  

Misc. 
The results from my nt scan are in.  Baby has a 1 in 4000 chance of having downs and a 1 in 18000 chance of trisomy 18.  I feel good knowing our baby is probably going to be healthy.

Rob is nesting for sure.  This past weekend he moved the guest bed into the office (the previous weekend he had finished up the room in the basement that was to be the office/craft/hobby room), then he brought up the bedding and room decorative set we had (I won it last summer).  He changed the outlets in the room over to tamper proof ones (which he had bought a loooong time ago).  He took down the light fixture and spray painted it to update the look (bonus that we had spray paint so it was free).
I think it's to early; in part because I'm still worried even though I have no reason to be, but because if we have everything all set so early what are we going to do the next 5 months? 

Monday, April 1, 2013

How I make money online

All these sites are free to sign up for.

Save up
This isn't so much a money making site but I've won twice from this website.  I have won a ipad3 last year and a $100 gift card to Lowe's last month.  I've been using this website for over a year and as a result I am ranked pretty high.  I am ranked right around 75th out of all users.  I don't know how many there are but I do know it is in the thousands.  I love how easy it is to use and even if you don't win anything it has great features.
Sign up here (Referral link, I get 10 free plays)

Swag bucks
This is probably my favorite.  I don't spend a lot of time on it, although I've been spending more lately.  I do the daily poll and the NOSO, and then occasionally some of the quick videos that you can watch to earn swagbucks.  I also use it as a search engine to try to get some points that way.  The points can then be redeemed for gift cards, discounts or other prizes.  I spend 5-10 minutes a day and earn a $5 amazon gift card probably every other month.
Sign up here (This is a referral link, but I don't know what I get for it)

Inbox dollars
I'm new to this one.  I've made around $8.00, but you need to have $30 in you account to cash out. You can take surveys and use it as a search engine, but I haven't done that yet.  I get emails (I think at least 10 times a week) and just by opening it and clicking on the confirm button you make .2 cents.  It's a small amount, but takes less than ten seconds to do.
Sign up here (I get .50 cents if you do everything on the to do list)

Ebates
I've been using ebates for three years and in that time I've gotten over $200 back.  Before shopping online I always check to see if the store or shop is listed on ebates.  One of my favorite to use in groupon.  When I ordered our wedding invitations through vista print I went through ebates and got 10% back.  I ordered some magazines on black friday and got 50% of my purchase back.  Awesome!
Sign up here (I think I get $5 when you make your first purchase) 

Nexercise
This one isn't technically online and I am brand new to it.  I've only used it twice.  Nexercise is an app (I think it's available on apple and android) and you track exercise and earn points that can be redeemed for other gift cards etc... I have no idea how long it will take to earn something though.  Since all activity is through the app if you want to be my friend let me know and I can email you my friend link (I think we both earn more points through this).
UPDATE:  It does take a while to earn enough points for something, but I still will keep using it.  

Sunday, March 31, 2013

This is embarassing

And I'm pretty sure I'm going to regret sharing this so if you can't find this post one day, I decided it was to much and took it down. 

I used to have a xanga when I was in college.  I found it yesterday.  Yikes!  

I know my writing on this blog isn't the most amazing, but it has improved since I had the xanga.  Granted if I look back on this blog in 5 years I might think this could be improved as well.  What was I thinking with excessive use of color and fonts?  Some post I had to highlight just to see.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Weekly Wrap Up

1) I tried the trick on pinterest where you put hot glue on plastic hangers to prevent shirts from slipping off.  It is genius!  I contemplated buying the special grippy hangers before but really I'm just to cheap.  Then I saw this and it is fantastic, and I already had the hot glue/gun so it was free.

2) I got my hair cut and highlighted yesterday.  With the exception of a few small miscellaneous food things (like that chocolate bar I reaaaallllly needed after almost 2 hours on the phone with at&t) that total maybe $10 this was the only other money I've spent on myself in almost a month.  I had a friend do it so it cost me $40.   I felt bad because she is also pregnant (a few weeks ahead of me) and I know she was probably tired after working all day, and then spending the time to do this, but I really appreciate it.   And now I'm back on a no spending kick.

3) I think something is going on with our mail delivery.  We have gotten no mail 5 out of the last 8 delivery days.  Not even junk mail.  I guess it's possible we just aren't getting mail, but it seems odd to me.

4) Which probably explains why I never got the results from the NT scan in the mail.  I called today (the scan/blood work was done the 19th) to find out the results.  The risk of the baby having down's is 1 in 4,000 and the risk of trisomy 18 is 1 in 18,000.  I still have to have another round of blood work sometime in the second trimester, but for now I can relax a little.

5) My best friend was in town last weekend and even though it was a short visit and I didn't see her a ton it was really nice.  She will be back in June, then August and then October.  I'm loving the mega bus for her since it means more visits.  Yeah!

6) I "think" the weather is finally warming up here. The 10 day forecast only has 2 days with temps below 40 degrees and those both say few snow showers.  It's not a secret I'm not a fan of winter, and would take 90 degrees over 30 any day.  I'm so ready for the warmth.  I even took a walk today which hasn't happened since last fall.  I tried last week when the weather was decent, but naturally 5 minutes into my walk it started to rain.

7) Rob finished the trim in the basement room and we moved the office stuff down there.  It's a little bit of a pain to walk down there when I need an envelope or something, but that's just because I'm lazy.  We are then moving the guest room into what was the office/craft room and the guest room will be the baby's room.

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Day 26- My favorite food

Hands down I would say pasta.   I actually ate some for lunch today. 

I love it with a little red wine or balsamic vinegar, feta cheese and butter.  Although I might have to give up the vinegar for a while, it made my stomach churn a little.  This baby better love it as much as I do. 

I also love it with marinara sauce (no meat) and cheese.

It's the one food I could probably eat every day.


 

13 weeks. First trimester done.

Some people use different dates to determine when the second trimester starts. I've heard 12 weeks, 13 weeks and even 13 weeks and 3 days.   I decided to go with 13 weeks.  So today I'm in the second trimester and am 1/3 way through this pregnancy.   


How far along:  13 weeks. This is date I got from charting; if I went by the date of my period, which my ob does I would be 13 weeks 3 days.  There isn't much of a variation in them.  I didn't ovulate as late as I have before.  I'm still sticking with the ovulation date, which baby has measured at during the first two ultrasounds.  I didn't ask during the third. 

Baby Size:  A peach or a gas cap on a car.  Take your pick.


Weight:  124.4 (up 1.6lbs from the start).

Symptoms:   

  • Dizziness and lightheartedness started last week.  I have been trying to eat more often and have been drinking lots more water and that seems to help somewhat.  
  • I still feel nausea a lot although it's less of an all day thing and more of a here and there thing. 
  • Getting up lot's to pee at night
  • Gas pains
I look big here, but it's totally the shirt
 and the way I'm standing. 
Maternity Clothes: Not yet.

Sleep:  I need to get more on a routine of going to bed early and not sleeping in so late (9-10am).  I slept a few 3-4 hour stretches Saturday night which for me is a long time.

Cravings/Food Aversions:  Still not a fan of meat, although I did eat a chicken egg roll the other day.  Fruit is still always good as are bagels and cream cheese.  But really no cravings yet.  My appetite has mostly returned and it's no longer a struggle to eat although I still only eat small portions.


Belly Button:  In

Rings on or off: On

Gender:  Unknown, but only for 5 more weeks.  My sister in law and mother in law say boy.  My mom, sister and brother in law say girl.  My brother says he hopes it's a girl so my niece won't be the only girl on that side of the family. 

I had a dream Sunday night that the baby was a boy.  I had a random unexpected ultrasound during a unscheduled (as in I think I just showed up at the doctor because I was in the area) doctor visit at 14 weeks.  As soon as the wand was put on my belly the baby was shown with it's leg spread and there was no mistaking it was a boy.  Rob was proud of that fact. Ha.
Name:  I don't know.  Rob says we are set on the names we had before getting pregnant, but now that I actually am I find myself wavering a little.  But we still have lots of time since we don't want to share until after the baby is born. 

Milestones:  2nd trimester!


Best moment: Telling our families.  It was kind of tough to get together, but it was worth it.  They were all really excited for us. Although seeing the baby again and seeing it move was pretty amazing.

Looking forward to:  Garage sales to get cheap baby things!

What I miss:  Wine, specifically moscato or reisling.  I'm not a big drinker, but once in a while it's nice to have a glass with dinner. 


Labor signs: Please nothing for at least another 25 weeks!

Appointments:  16 week checkup on the 16th, and the anatomy scan on the 30th. 


Misc.  We told our families this past weekend.  I didn't do anything fancy for my parents.  They asked me if I was feeling better (I had been feel dizzy at a party the night before) and I said "Not really because I'm pregnant" or something along those lines.  
   With Rob's dad, sister and brother in law I had taken pictures a few weeks ago when I was babysitting my nephew and niece.  I took a picture of my nephew holding up a sign with the number #1, my niece with a number #2 and then I took the ultrasound pic and put a #3 on it.  I put them in a album on the ipad and had them flip through it.    My sister in law caught on right away and said "I know that's not my ultrasound picture.  Congratulations!"   

It was kind of like this. 



Love Love Love 'Psych'












Later that night Rob sent a text to every family member who's number he had to tell them.  Sometimes I feel like he's not as involved as I'd like.  He doesn't always ask how I'm feeling, or when I say I'm feeling sick and expect him to get me something he doesn't always just do it like I'd like.  But then he shows his excitement in other ways and it makes me feel so happy.  I never doubted his excitement, but I guess it is different for guys.  


Then the other day Rob was talking about getting the crib set up.  I was like whoa, it's still really early!  And the crib needs to be painted.  It's not my favorite color or style, but it was free and I don't hate it; I just would not have chosen it if I had to pay for it. I'm still very grateful that it is one less thing we need to buy. 




Monday, March 25, 2013

Day 25-Describe my Location

Right at the moment I'm sitting parked on the couch at my house which is on a quiet dead on street in a small town in West Michigan where I grew up.

The house the day Rob closed on it in 2009



















I wish the house looked like it does in the picture.  There is snow on the ground right now, and I'd love to be able to see the grass again. 

I like our quiet street and the fact that it will be a great place to raise or kids, or at least the first few (we have 2 extra bedrooms, but I want more than 2 kids).

Living a mile from my parents & Rob's dad has it's perks.  Rob's mom only lives 20-25 minutes away, and our siblings are within 30-35 minutes. 

I do wish that I could live somewhere warmer, somewhere that I wouldn't have to bundle up in heavy layers half the year, but our family is here and I'm not sure I'd want to live so far away from them.  


Friday, March 22, 2013

Weekly Wrap Up

1) I never thought I would feel this way, but I look at the ultrasound pictures from this week and I get all teary because I can't believe that is my baby.  I can't feel the baby, and I don't look pregnant so it's hard to really feel pregnant sometimes, but to look at that and know what it took to get here it amazing.  I'm turning into a sap. Oh boy.



2) Still no job.  I've sent messages to several families.  As much as I feel like a change, at this point I think child care really is going to be my best option.  It's kind of discouraging me (the jobless thing). It's not that I really expected a job to fall into my lap, but maybe I kind of did.  It's been over 2 weeks since I've worked and I'm getting used to not working.  I've even sent messages to friends I know that work in childcare to let me know if they have heard of anything.

3) Since I'm worried I'm going to get way to used to not working I'm determined to clean the house  Like really clean it.  Yesterday I swept and mopped the bathroom, kitchen and entryway floors.  I even pulled out the stove and cleaned behind it. I wasn't going to try to move the fridge though. I vacuumed the entire upstairs.  I attempted to clean the bathtub but I had a hard time leaning over it. Not because I have a big belly, but it just wasn't comfortable. 

4) I got an iphone this week.  At 27 I finally got my first smartphone.  I'm so grown up now!  Rob got one on Sunday and I was jealous, but mine needed a battery and otherwise it worked fine.  He didn't need the iphone but he needed a new phone.  His screen would go fuzzy, it wouldn't make or get calls or texts. He had an iphone 3.  Then on Monday he came home and said that he felt bad that he got one and I didn't so I got one too.  I'm worried we can't afford it, but it's only $30 extra a month for my data.

5) My best friend will be here tomorrow!  I haven't seen her since Thanksgiving. Yea!

6) Rob is getting mildly annoyed that we haven't told everyone yet.  We did tell his mom Tuesday.  She got Rob the phone. So we brought her a thank you card and Rob wrote it in 'Thanks grandma for getting my dad a new phone. That was nice of you. See you in late September or early October.'  She read it and was like 'Your pregnant?'  She was surprised but excited.
Telling everyone else is getting difficult.  We were going to tell my parents that day, but my dad was sleeping when we stopped by and I didn't want to wake him up (he works third shift), Rob's dad works at Walmart and was working that night.  Rob's sister's husband is out of town this week so we have to wait to tell them together.  My brother still needs to know also as well as my niece (although I'm not as worried about her; she's 7).

Then with my best friend coming this weekend I want to hang out with her.  I don't understand why it's a big deal to wait a few more days.  I know he's excited, but I want to hang out with my friend since I only see her a few times a year.



Thursday, March 21, 2013

Finding out I'm pregnant

This is the post that for some reason I never wrote.  I meant to and never got around to it or forgot for some reason. 
Here is the post I wrote when I first found out & the details are below.

As you probably know it wasn't the easiest journey to this point.  I should say that getting pregnant wasn't that difficult.  It was the staying pregnant part that was.  This pregnancy happened on cycle 6.  I also got pregnant on cycles 2 &3.  So 50% of time time I was able to conceive.

I know the odds are 20% each cycle, but we had better odds I think due to the fact that I was charting and using opk's.  
Finding Out:
I tested that morning at 11dpo with a wondfo and thought I saw a line, but I thought I'd been seeing lines the last few days so I didn't really think it was positive.  I checked again fifteen minutes later (I know it was after the time limit) and it was faint, but clearly there.   So I walked out into the kitchen and told Rob:  'I think I got a positive pregnancy test.'  I held my pee and tested again with a frer an hour later and the second line was there. 

Timing:
Our timing was pretty good. We hit o-3,o-2,o-1, and o.  

What we did:
I temped, used opks, took pnvs, we had sex a lot, and I drank pom juice and lots of water.   I actually used bona dea as well (I didn't buy this; I won this).  I took it from a week or so into my cycle until I confirmed O. 

Symptoms:
I had cramps and backaches pretty much the whole 2ww.   I also had pregnancy related dreams three times the week I got the positive. 

Read about my first beta draw results here and the second in this post.

11dpo-16dpo